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What to do at the time of death?
Answer: the first few minutes/moments as little as possible!
The ground sinks beneath your feet, you can hardly believe it. You come into very close contact with the mystery of death. And so you are exposed to that unknowing. You don't know what is happening to you, you almost don't believe it, you are sad, lost, fearful, rebellious, furious and then speechless or even apathetic. Any feeling is appropriate, because this is a normal human response to an extraordinary situation.
At the moment of death, a person's breathing and brain functions stop. This does not end the body's dying process, no, it has actually just begun. In many ancient traditions, every effort is made to provide rest for the deceased. This can be a few minutes or hours, depending on the circumstances. Finding peace . Own peace as a bereaved person is not easy to find at such a time.
Listening to your own breathing, even for a short period of time, brings your attention back to yourself.
Once you have slowly come to your senses after these few minutes, the arrangements begin. First, a doctor must determine the death. Until the doctor has arrived, try not to touch or move the body, with the exception of closing your eyes.
This helps to land in the important moment, to be aware and present. Your deceased needs you, because he is undergoing a tremendous transformation. Talk to him/her, let him/her know that you are letting him/her go with love. It is time, no matter how incomprehensible, absurd, difficult or unfair it may seem. It is time.
The questions we want to start discussing first:
- Where do you want your deceased to stay - at home or some other place?
- Would you possibly like to work with the family to care for and dress your loved one?
- Burial or cremation?
Once we are called in, we try to visit as soon as possible to get acquainted with each other and with the deceased.
If not all family members can be present, we create a video bridge so that everyone who wishes can participate and help decide. We are always nearby to support, unburden and accommodate you and do so in a subtle way. Invisible present.
Even when you feel the ground sinking beneath your feet, we are there to catch you, support you and give your loved one a dignified and memorable funeral.
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